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what polyamory isn’t

Love With The Lights On

What Polyamory Isn’t You’ve seen the headlines. Heard the jokes. The loaded sighs. The questions posed like accusations:“Isn’t that just cheating with extra steps?”“Isn’t it just about the sex?”“Isn’t it just… a phase?” The keyphrase “what polyamory isn’t” has trailed…

MMF erotic romance

Get Ready, Alaric Is Coming

MMF Erotic Romance Meets Tender Voyeurism Elias Mercer isn’t the same man he was in His, Theirs, Enough. He’s been claimed. Worshipped. Undone. But becoming visible has a cost. After an evening of exquisite surrender—public, witnessed, and impossibly raw—one woman…

writing with pseudonyms and alter egos

The Many Mouths of Desire

On Pseudonyms, Alter Egos, and Writing with More Than One Name Writing with Pseudonyms and Alter Egos. There is no one body I write from. There never was. Only shifting skins, cracked mirrors, and the sweet ache of truth made…

Body Dysmorphia in Men

The Mirror, Misremembered

Body dysmorphia in men There are mirrors I won’t look at.Not because they lie—but because they don’t. There’s a silence in reflection that isn’t kind. It’s clinical. Honest in the way a scalpel is honest. And some days, that sharpness…

Erotic Language of Men’s Feet

On Heels (Yes, His)

The Erotic Language of Men’s Feet There are love letters hiding in a man’s feet. You just have to get low enough to read them. We talk about hands, yes. The way they grip, cradle, press.Jawlines, of course. The cut…

Writing Through Emotional Grief

Writing Through Emotional Grief

The Chapter That Sat in my Throat There are chapters you write with your hands.And then there are chapters that write you. Chapter Three of Yours, Theirs, Still—“Dusted Paint and Come”—was the latter. It wasn’t the most explicit. It didn’t…

Writing Sex That Means Something | Rowan Thornwell

Writing Sex That Means Something

Desire as Revelation There’s a quiet ache that lives in all of us—some call it longing, some call it shame. I write toward that ache. When I’m writing sex that means something, I’m not chasing choreography. Not really. Where the…